Thank you Anita for your answer. I guess the answer is yes, but only after I gave in. She never agreed to go to therapy. She told me she was not ready. That she needs her pain.  She never, ever gave me any credit when we disagreed about something. When she was sad, I was doing my best to understand what she was thinking and feeling. When I was feeling sad, it was just about me being demanding, complaining or negative. She never said she is sorry (like she ment it). Not a single time. It was always 100% my fault. And she really knew what to say to make me feel really bad about myself. And I think she chose her words to do exactly that. It was like I became her enemy or something, like a burden. And now she says that I am selfish and only care about myself. Seriously? Now, when I write this I can almost hear her voice in my head saying things like: “Now you are crying about your stuff in internet forum. PATHETIC!” “Stop lying!” “This is not what happened!” “I was acting like I was because you were so selfish!” “You were not good enough!”

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