Dear Tom:

If you look back into your experience in relationship, see in retrospect what worked and what didn’t work. Stop doing what didn’t work and try something new.

There is a middle ground between pressuring a woman to become exclusive and having serious conversations, that is, non-superficial conversations, but conversations about feelings, motivations, experiences in life. It doesn’t have to be very heavy or very light. There is all the in-between.

You wrote that during the second time you continued to get to know her. What did you get to know about her the second time that you didn’t know before?

anita