Dear Macaron:

I think your plan is a good plan. Will she be hurt? Maybe. But your plan is not abusive to her, and that is all that is you are responsible for, to not be abusive to her.

We can’t help people feeling hurt, all we can do is pay attention to not mistreat others.

By cutting contact with her and by not attending her wedding, you are not mistreating her. What you are doing is taking care of yourself, trying to “find release from these horrible feelings trapped inside”.

Your primary responsibility is to take good care of yourself. I hope you post again, I would like to read what you choose to do next and how it works out.

anita