Dear June:

You asked: is it me or is it him (responsible for the troubled relationship)?

Probably both, you and him. (Not you or him).

If you would like to look more into your part in creating the trouble in the relationship, share more examples, if you’d like, detailed examples: circumstance, what you did/ said, what he did/ said.

I will be back to the computer in about sixteen hours and will read from you if you post more by then and reply.

anita