Hello John, Please read the entire thing before replying or sending that letter/card.

You mentioned she is seeing someone else. How long exactly has it been after the break up that both of you are in new relationships?

I  really do understand the kind of love you are talking about but I want you to understand something. Take a rope and cut it into two halves, now try putting them back together. Can you? You may tie a knot at max or if by some magical force you do manage to make it back into one rope again, there will always be a scar at the point it was broken.

I believe that the reason both of you broke up is not that you interfered in her life, in a relationship that is inevitable. But that you stopped giving her the kind of respect that you gave her in the start. You wanted her to put you first, all guys do that to their women and it is not nice. You are basically asking a person to strip down their pride, their self-esteem and give it all to you. Would you do that for someone? Take the example of your current GF, would you do that for her. Forget about your children and your own self, and give it all to your Gf.

You also said that your ex and you barely went through the day without talking, for ten months. Pretty much seems to me to be the honeymoon period of romance as they say. And that constant contact made you needy and it is natural that it would happen to anyone in the same circumstances but both of you should have set some rules around it. when one falls too hard too soon for someone, Yes it can be love but more than Often it is because you needed that kind of constant support in your life. Perhaps you are going through something difficult in some other sphere of your life… Your job does not give you satisfaction, Maybe you feel you are not able to give your children a lot of time that they deserve, maybe you do not get enough time to pursue your hobbies or activities that made you happy other than love and romance.

As far as your current GF is concerned, the mere fact that you called her NEW means she is just a replacement in your mind, you don’t have serious feelings for her no matter how good she is and your mind keeps on telling you that she will never be able to give you the kind of happiness your ex, did. I think you are still trying to find a solution to your troubles through people. Trust me, I know better than anybody else.

I think it is unfair that you are talking to your ex while being in a relationship with another girl. This is cheating. And if you are cheating that means your emotions for your current girl are either not true or you don’t want to accept that this relationship is mature and a little less maddening than your last.

Yes, love makes us crazy but being rational or irrational is in our hands and if we have acted irrationally it is best to walk away and work on our demons. I know you don’t want to listen to this but Trust me this is the right thing. You have to let your ex go, no matter how tempting it is to talk to her. The little communication you have is making you more and more clingy again, look at you getting a customized card printed. Would a man do that unless he really really want someone back to the point of necessity? Anita’s points make sense here, she was your drug. You need to sober up. Your current GF sounds mature, tell her about your insecurities and problems.

The greatest thing about love that is meant to be is, It will come around. More strongly and in a manner that lasts. If not, the madness and the passion might take us to the point of insanity.

Think of your actions, from her perspective. She: I was in a beautiful relationship with a man but instead of taking care of his affairs, he meddled into mine (Children are the greatest thing to a mother, that is solely her affair unless she accepts a man worthy enough to be their father). I was in love with him, I missed him but I did not miss the way he regarded me as a weak woman who needs help at every step. I am not that woman. A few months later, he tells me how sorry he was for his actions and I forgive him because of his regrets. But I am still not sure of his actions, after all, he did change unexpectedly when we were together. Who knows if he does the same again. But still, let me be in touch with him and see how he is now.

Sending that card now will make her sure you have not changed. I know men have the attitude to fix things, but not everything should be fixed by us, some things should be left to time. Wounds heal and If there really was love involved, Things will come back together to give you happiness.