Dear beginner25:

Those alarms and the hope were an automatic reaction, not an undoing of your progress.

You wrote: “I don’t want to miss the relationship we had forever”- expect the hope and thoughts to return once in a while, triggered by this or that, this is unpreventable. Relax into the process of moving on, a process that includes sometimes hoping and feeling what you wish you didn’t.

Don’t get scared by the thoughts and the hope. Try to not engage in them, but don’t see more in it than there is to it. Meaning, feeling the hope again doesn’t mean there is (reasonable) hope. It doesn’t mean you are not making progress. It doesn’t mean you will miss him forever.

anita