Dear Claudia:

The therapist you saw was not helpful, many are not. If I was to see a therapist at this point in my life I would interview the therapist, ask her or him a series of questions, see if it is a good match for me.

Which brings me to another sort of interviewing. You are interested in getting married in the next three years. Well, why not interview men for the position of a husband? In other words date with a mission. The fact that you are feeling such a strong emotional attachment to this one man can help in that you will not get attached to a new man you are to meet, and so you can learn about the man objectively, without strong emotion.

You can date as in going to a coffee shop with this man and another day, another man, a public place for coffee and a quiet conversation. start there. What do you think?

anita