Hi Amelia,

It’s all too much and not enough.

If you marry the guy, I envision it being five or ten years later after he has outgrown his Deliberately Clueless ***-**** phase. And for several years not seeing any evidence of past behavior. The problem is you are now primed to see every subtle sign of it.

He hasn’t actually cheated (as far as we know) but he’s basically admitting through his very being “BOY DO I HAVE THAT IN ME THOUGH!”

My advice is: Really? Do you have to?

Best,

Inky