Dear Violet:

I have three approaches in mind, for your problem:

1. Practice reasonable self control  over your behavior toward him when you get worried. Your worry will show, I understand, but you can control your behavior so you don’t display aggression toward him, from not blaming him for your anxiety (which preceded your relationship with him) to not raising your voice and so forth.

2. It is fair that he accommodate you in regard to your anxiety by doing all he can do to keep his phone charged and to check his phone once an hour or so (when he is not at work) to see if you called.

3. Explore the origin of your anxiety. Your share makes me think of a young child crying as her mother left for work or elsewhere, fearing her mother will never come back. It is a terrible fear for a child. Anything  like that?

anita