Dear Hannah:

You are welcome. Like you, he probably doesn’t want to feel vulnerable. You wrote that he is attractive and that makes you feel insecure, but notice this: many physically attractive men and women feel insecure too. They look at the mirror and they don’t like what they see, or they hear a compliment about looking good and they think something like: if only that person knew how ugly I am on the inside…

When you ask him a question and he doesn’t answer, maybe it is difficult for him,  better not repeat the same question, let it go. Later you can ask him another question that may be easier for him to answer. That other question and other questions in the future will eventually give you the information you need.

anita