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Hi,
I understand your situation. To me, it sounds like anita was right, there is a part of him that also believes this, otherwise he would have stood up to his parents and would fight for his love, he would be mentally independent to make his own choices about his life partner. If he is willing to keep you a secret and by doing so, make his parents happy, who is he putting first here? Coming in first with a man like that will be a tough battle to win.
Don’t let this opinion affect your self-image or self-esteem. I know it is hard to not take personally, but trust me when I say that I have seen this common sweeping judgement across many elder generations from an Indian background (where I also come from). And furthermore, this is before his parents have actually met you? Sounds like his own opinion again… If so, you don’t need a man who knocks your esteem this way.
Love your unique beauty and find someone who truly loves every part of you.
Best wishes,
Afrin