Thanks  Loleta.  I will try to focus that way.

Anita, I understand what you are saying, but I have to respectfully disagree some.  I believe that when a person finds what they feel is true love, that that “feeling” will always be there.  There may be some rough spots and times when there is some hurt, but that feeling will always exist and you will feel that throughout the relationship. I know when I hurt, all it took was a simple text from her to make the pain go away.

I have known people that have had and still have that.   that feeling when you just look at someone and smile, just because.  My aunt and uncle for example.  It was amazing the love they had for each other throughout their entire relationship.  When my aunt died, my uncle was destroyed.  It took him years to get over losing her and I don’t think that he fully has.

Maybe we are only met to really have that with one person, maybe not.  right now for me, I’m not sure.  I do know that everyday that goes by, i do feel closer  to my girlfriend.  I know that she will never be my ex and i may never feel that way with her like i did my ex.  But i’m working on focusing on her and us and trying to forget.  It has been getting easier with every passing day.  I still have tough ones.  Almost like remembering someone that has passed on.

At this point in time, all I know that i can do is love my girlfriend and show her that i do.  maybe in more time, when i can fully let go and take my ex off of that pedestal that Valora has talked about, i will get that feeling with my girlfriend.

thanks so much for everyone’s input.  I appreciate it so much. 🙂