Dear Ben:

I think that best for you is to focus on your life outside this or any love relationship, focus on work,  on your career. There is simply too much of a challenge  when it comes  to relationships because of this significant separation anxiety. I wouldn’t like you to waste all your twenties and thirties tormented with separation anxiety, paralyzed by it, waiting and being afraid and distressed.

Focus on work, on your career, on anything  other than relationships. Turn away from relationships for a long time. Later, not  now. Your current focus, that is you drilling a deeper  and deeper hole for yourself.

So yes, leave this pseudo/ kind of/ a little something of the relationship that  it is.

anita