Shelby,

Well done honestly! I absolutely hate presentations so the fact that you did it is amazing! It is a lot to present in front of a group of people though so I think it’s pretty normal to feel drained after. The whole lead up to the event must’ve been a nightmare!

Yes I know exactly what you mean by change. It is true, if a relationship did not work out something must change in order for it to work. This is the issue I am currently having with my ex.. I don’t believe that the main aspects of the relationship i.e progress have or will change. He’s still pretty adamant on the mortgage etc. Some of my friends have tried to make me understand his perspective and said I am getting upset at a man for being driven and motivated to achieve the best in life.. How can I be angry at him for that? And I get that, but I don’t think it is just that. I do believe it is a cover up because he just isn’t in a rush to progress (because mortgages are a long process) and also that he is very much the financially responsible man in his household and will more than likely not get away from that for a long time..

So with that in mind I will be speaking with my boss regarding a promotion/pay rise so that I can save enough money to be ready to find my own four walls in a few months time when my family leave.. Fingers crossed that goes well. He wont progress with me? I’ll progress by myself! But then I think what’s the point? What is the point of him building a life for himself how he sees fit and me doing the same? Where is the ‘together’ in any of that?

I’m very proud of how well you are doing, honestly. It is admirable. I must admit I am majorly delayed in any progress because me and my ex are currently on ‘good terms’. So to speak at the moment there is no real effort to move forward as we are hung up on the idea of a reconciliation. I am however extremely weary and observant before I make any real decisions so at least I’m doing that!

I wonder how Victoria is doing.. I am assuming the reconciliation with her ex went well as we haven’t heard from her in a little while!