Hi Shelbyville,

I’ve been where you are, so identified with the voice in my head and the emotions that come with it that I’d forgotten how to be happy. I think it happens to most people at some point in their lives. I understand how you feel. This guy is amazing and you want to be with him. You are totally broken-hearted and experiencing great loss. Sad and painful, devastating, I know.

You have two choices: 1) You can relive this awful event again and again, keep telling yourself how lacking your life is now, keep replaying this sad story of yours, and keep yourself closed off from life (from traveling, etc.), or 2) you can stop resisting and instead surrender, accept everything that has happened, and re-open yourself to all that’s beautiful about life.

From reading some of your posts on that other thread my impression of you is that you are smart, compassionate, level-headed, loyal, caring, honest, humble, and grateful. That’s what I see in you.

I’ve experienced disappointing setbacks in my life, as we all have because setbacks are a part of life, but right now where I am it is sunny and cool with a slight breeze in the air and I’m not going to waste this day thinking about my setbacks. If life were always easy we would never become the strong, resilient people we are meant to be. This is your time, girl! Time to see what you’re made of, to see what you got!

B 🙂