Dear lukamoe:

Sometimes when you reach out to someone, be it a family member, a friend, a stranger, he or she will reject you. It happened already in your life  I bet, this is why you area afraid to reach out to this guy. If there was no rejection in your life so far, if all the people you reached out to responded positively to you, you wouldn’t be afraid now. It  is true to everyone. Everyone is rejected sometimes, and it hurts. This is why we fear rejection, we don’t want more hurt, more pain.

And  so, in reaching out there  is a  risk. Best you can do is reach out in such a way that maximizes your chances of a positive response and minimize your potential pain if rejected. Plan on how to reach out to him so to increase  the chances that he  will respond positively to you knowing there can be  no guarantee that he will,  and plan it so to minimize your pain if rejected. One way to do the latter is to make your attempt simple, not elaborated, not sharing too much, just a  bit. Then wait. If he  rejected  you or made fun of you (a fear you mentioned), then he will not have a lot of  information  about you to use.

Does this make sense to you?

anita