Hi Anita,

It certainly is issue closed in terms of the relationship, I don’t have any desire to get back together with her. If we had talked things through like I was suggesting for a long time, warts and all, then I would have gotten back together with her. Not now after all the broken promises and her not even being able to have a serious conversation, instead ghosting me, even though I had said that us going our separate ways was something I was willing to accept. It really is a shame but I shall carry on being honest about my issues this much I know is right at least. Sometimes I think that I want to trust so bad I become blind to obvious breaches of, like her lying to her family, it shouldn’t have taken this long to see something wrong with it.

Thank you for helping to freshen my perspective, I understand that I didn’t make her this way and that that’s just how she is. I was never going to get any honest closure from her and that there really was no chance for us to grow as a couple. Do you think her paranoia about me and her friend was maybe some kind of projection? This happened early on and the people at work didn’t help they told her “something is going on between those two” and she believed them over me, clearly. I live on the same street as said friend, so we walked home together and that was all there was to it. Every time she asked me I told her there was nothing, that those at work love to gossip the truth is nothing to them they make up their own stories about people.