Kkasxo,

My internet has been down for maintenance apparently, so I’ve had no coverage for the past day.

First off, is your sister okay? Your poor things, A&E is not a fun place to be- trust me I’ve had my fair share of trips. It’s exhausting, I hope she got the care she needs & is recovering.

As for your boyf, it’s understandable to be agitated. The person you love is spending time with someone you feel doesn’t like you and hurt you badly. It’s a tricky one because she’s family, and family is family. Having said that, my ex kinda pulled away from his sister when she hurt my feelings with some things she said at that family event before we split & I didn’t even ask him to. If your sister or brother hurt your man badly & still made him feel uncomfortable, how do you think you would behave?

Look it, you can tell yourself all you want what ya or may not happen, but I think most people on this forum understand the complexity of love, of attachment, of loss. My ex is in the dust and yet I still feel going back is an option!!!! What sort of delusional world do I live in?!

Im thrilled you made it to the gym, it’s given me some motivation to do something similar as I have been really bad with rubbish food lately & piling on the pounds too- again adding to low self esteem.

Could you ask your counsellor for ways to communicate how you’re feeling, instead of using the tried-and-tested withdrawal method?