Hi Shelby,

1. Okay, thanks, I understand now.

2. So the way you see it, this man is your only chance for a husband and family. Without him, you don’t see any of that in your future. Why do you think that? Is it because you can’t see yourself ever being as attracted to another man as you are to him?…or do you not believe in your ability to attract another good man?

What initially attracted you to him anyway, and him to you? And what did you love most about him, and he about you, the years you were together?

3. I think a lot of the crappy things we go through will ultimately make us stronger people but I also think that rejection isn’t necessarily one of those things. Maybe for some rejection actually does the opposite, chips away at our self-esteem, and the more we experience it the harder it is to recover from it. I wonder if this, in part, is why you’re having an especially difficult time trusting that you’ll eventually find a path out of your pain.

B