Dear Ladybug:

“How can I be healthy for myself and for him”- you have to  be willing to live apart  from him, to not have  him in your life at all.

You need him too much, willing to do anything and everything. You  sound rational, but over time I learned that  your use of logic is in the context of your desperation, meaning, you will think any thing that will keep him in your life.

The way I see  it, you have this  one  vision and nothing else: him. You have to  have him in your life.  Nothing else matters. Giving him space, this is means to an end, keeping  him in your life.

Got to take  care of that desperation so that you can really think logically and act  wisely.

anita