Dearest Anita,

this is IT!!!

Many mother taught me to be loyal to my sister. Essentially be a good sister and bad wife.

Yes yes yes. You put it into words. Oh what an epiphany. This is like the last one I hold onto daily :

the good is not here it is over there  by this delusion I seek over there

Now this: to be a GOOD girl I must be a BAD wife

oh so brilliant  – I have a slight release/joy right now for coming to this epiphany via route of your wisdom

You feel sure of and confident of Number 3 no help at all. I feel 100 percent sure of this in my bones.

But of course able to be done by understanding first. Respecting and savoring it. And With practice. Yes with practice

But anita – do you believe that by doing so I can get back on track and to my priorities. Which I was working so hard to do To my inner self and husband? Its like this. All this stuff with my sister doesn’t have me just frenzied in regards to her. It’s ocerall. It’s forgetting if I turned the stove off because my mind is a mess. It’s not asking my husband how his day was bc my mind is in circles. You get the idea and you know this pattern. It’s not living because it’s being consumed with anxiety and toxicity. I feel so off track today off the path that I quesion it. So I am asking you to explain to me the link – how will removing myself from helping her – allow me to go back to say , Cali Chica “en route of good progress” 2 months ago. I am almost there and do believe it somewhere deep down. I just need a reminder. That it is possible. And by doing number 3 I will be able to facilitate the process back on path better