We talked!  It went so well!  We talked about ED and our relationship in general.  It was such a fulfilling conversation and the weight that is lifted off of my shoulders feels incredible.  In brief, there is a history of intermittent ED and he is now experiencing some depression, as well as lack of exercise and poor diet – which he states is contributing to both.  He mentioned that outside of sex we aren’t intimate and I have already seen a change in him trying to be more intimate in our general life.  He also helped me clean the entire house, put on my favorite music, and cooked.  He did initiate and he had trouble, but the fact that he did all of these things makes me feel so good.  Now…my pattern is to switch to a new source of anxiety so I am working to stay in the moment and not create chaos where there isn’t any!