Hey Grounded, so I think the problem is really with your underlying motivation of hoping your decision on the information sharing will somehow have an impact on your ex. It might, it might not – but it actually just doesn’t matter either way. This will likely sound harsh I know but it’s another one of those things that is doing you more harm in wondering about it than it is having any impact on him at all.  I share information according to the level of trust I have with the other person and how private I consider the information. Try to let your decision be guided without reference to any impact on him.  I’d also be curious why you are finding it hard to accept what you want – or did I misunderstand what you meant there?

Hey Shelby, how’s it going ‘up’ there? When do you next see your therapist btw?  Ha, yeah, it sounds a bit daft about the fairy thing I know but it’s a good way to unlock your brain by not thinking about the how, just the what. It’s also sometimes easier to write down what you don’t want too if having trouble thinking about what you do want. Got anything good planned for the weekend?