Dear Sofioula:

You are welcome.

Notice that the family role you took on as a child, the opposite to your sister’s role, being “the exact opposite, the obedient one, the selfless”, was aimed at getting your parents’ attention, to get their approval and admiration (“to make them admire me and steal a little bit of their focus” on your sister)-

does not serve you in life. Often the family role we take on as children doesn’t serve us in life, as an adult. Better practice moderation between selfish and selfless, be neither one, not this extreme and not the other extreme but instead, promote your self interest while considering the other person’s interest as well, making your interactions and relationships with others a Win-Win.

anita