Dear Andrea:

“I try to better myself and someone comes in and takes real advantage of the situation”- there are people looking for others’ weaknesses, others’ need to be loved, and they take advantage, aiming at enjoying another person at the person’s expense. Is that what you experienced?

anita

Andrea,

Not to discount your pain and sadness but your experience is what I call life.  Hopefully we learn and grow wiser.  This is the gift even though when we are in the middle of it does not feel much like one.

I am curious about how you are trying to better yourself?  What about your past that this guy has taken advantage of?  or what situation did he took advantage of?

Mark

Andrea,

Like I said, I don’t mean to discount what you have been through with this person or with your past.

Yes to open yourself up about your abuse, especially when you are not healed to someone who is not a compassionate human then that can be doubly painful.

Glad that you are getting help.  I know several friends who have had trauma and abuse.  It’s a long and tough road to heal and develop tools to take care of yourself.

I find I need to continuing to tune myself to discern who I can trust and how much I stayed shielded from others.  Fortunately I am fairly emotionally resilient and had no abuse in my past.

How old are you?  How many close/romantic relationships have you had?

Mark