After what you’ve written, I’m not sure why you would welcome this man into your life. He’s got character flaws, is disrespectful, sounds manipulative. I’ve known a few of these in my lifetime. The feelings you are experiencing are endorphins from being single for awhile and then finally meeting someone and having sex. Look at the science of it rather than just focusing on your feelings (which are based on a lie).

I can guarantee that he won’t have an honest conversation with you if you press further. I don’t think he feels he owes you that, to be honest, as this was set-up from the start as a hook-up situation.

He’s contacting you because he is looking for an ego stroke (and will probably at some point play with your emotions further to get more easy sex). You have indicated that this isn’t something you want, so honour your soul and demand more in life which in this case is a loving relationship. My best recommendation is to block, block, block and just keep moving forward.