Dear Lilly:

Yes, I agree, your grandmother emotionally abuses you when she tells you that you don’t love her and then goes out of her way to prove that you don’t love her, listing all the ways…

It reminds me of my mother, she too insisted that I didn’t love her and added, repeatedly, that I was trying to hurt her, and she listed the ways that I allegedly was trying to hurt her, intentionally. It was not at all true and it hurt so much to hear her say those things. I knew it wasn’t true that I was trying to hurt her, but I still believed her somewhat. I was conflicted and confused, hurt and scared and angry, a whole lot.

anita