Dear me myself and i:

You and I have a lot in common. You wrote about your mother: “she ruined me, she’s in my head”-

same here. My mother ruined a whole lot of my life too. I put lots of miles between me and her, crossed two oceans away, but when I wasn’t talking to her on the phone or visiting with her, she was still talking to me “in my head”. (And like you I rented rooms in other people’s home for years).

Our early life experiences with our mothers are very significant because we are not separated mentally from her, so her voice becomes our voice, and what she told us, and the messages she communicated to us, we keep hearing those throughout life, no matter how far.

Until we find a quiet enough place to live in and learn to hear silence instead of her voice. I will be glad to share with you what I have learned so far about living without her voice. I will soon be away from the computer for about nineteen hours. If you reply to me, I will read and reply to you when I am back.

anita