Dear gj:

On second thought, I think that your lack of motivation is about the lack of love in your life.

You wrote that your mother was unhappy when you arrived into her life and ever since. You wrote that your family “is very rigid”, family members “don’t really express our feelings”, that the idea of someone being “always there for you and cherish you” is something you “don’t have evidence for”.

You wrote that in your family, “no one cares about emotional needs”, that “love is expressed only during illnesses, the rest of the time it is just words and not actions”.

You wrote that you don’t have a good relationship with your father, that your grandmother is horrible, that your conversations with your mother are limited to the latest scandals, gossip and news.

“I think love is a Western concept”, you wrote. And you wrote:  “I decided I need to leave the house, even as far as leaving the country”-

-I think it is time for you to move to the West, where love is a concept.

You need love no less than any human. Humans need love because we are social animals, and all social animals need love and thrive on love.  I think you are not driven in your life because you’ve been surviving without love for too long. You dried out like a plant that has been without water for too long.

There is a song that says: “All you need is love”. Can it be as simple as that?

anita