Dear Veronica:

You are welcome. Learn and heal from your experience best you can. No need to get back with him and change things, not a good idea. But you can learn and heal so that you can be a good person with people you didn’t meet yet.

In my own experience, a few years ago I was still feeling very guilty over a certain behavior (involving physical aggression). I felt guilty for over twenty years until I realized that there is only one thing that makes it okay for me to no longer suffer this guilt, and that is that I worked very hard, by that point, to heal from what caused me to do that behavior.

There was and is no way for me to travel back in time and change what happened. If it was possible I would cross deserts and mountains so to not harm a particular person. But I can’t. What I can do is learn and heal so to not repeat that aggressive behavior with anyone, so to become a good person.

anita