Hi Ashley
I once had a friend who unfortunately died in an accident 25 years ago.We, his friends could see he had an appearance very similar to what you describe,productive and successful in his academic field, taking care of his expensive car and living in a house with a magnificent view over the city where he occasionally would sit and play the grand piano.
To those who did not know him over time and did not know about his personal background he would have appeared condescending, I believe (his mother committing suicide when he was 11, upbringing for some years at a boarding school etc.).
To us he was just himself, self confident but also in moments insecure and expressing a deep sadness in his (brown) eyes.
He died an in fact heroic death in his mid 30s and is now almost forgotten, as he was childless.His girlfriend whom he adored was sweet and a “commoner” as they say in England, if such things as class exist.
I believe you just should continue playing with your toys and visit your club, and as time go by I think you will connect with others if mutually opening up over lived life (personal and professional) and listening to each other.
Sincerely AEG