Dear Anita,

exactly. exactly.

 it is about viewing others as superior to you, superior to you-and-your-husband

your husband cannot get himself out of that inferior lock he is in

It sounds like even the “compulsive note taking” and “over observation” falls under this.  It does.

hmm..where to go from here?

to add: (edited after submitted)

my mother spent a great deal of energy and grief “hating” this about her self.  “wishing” she was someone who could focus on “you and yours” but instead couldn’t. but she would wax and wane between feeling she had nothing to appreciate and so of course worshipped others – to the other extreme of “oh I have so much, but look we spend our time on other people, how wasteful” of course never having true awareness or the depth of this “dysfunction”

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