Dear Anita,

After we discuss the above, when you would like – I wanted to add something else…

To add about the portion that is “compulsive mind chatter” it is almost like an “obsession with others”

an example would be, if you are on a nice walk with your husband enjoying the sunlight, the sounds, the people everywhere, walking, running, biking – a beautiful environment.  Why would you constantly talk? Talk about this and that.  “oh S and her boyfriend are going away finally, she is happy he finally booked the trip.” “oh that lady at work was saying how the center is going to get busier in the summer.” “oh I saw the neighbor earlier and she mentioned there’s an open house she went to upstairs, but it was an old unit.”

Can’t just stay in the present.  Talking about this and that.  This is similar to the above scenario (couple moving to florida) but also different in the sense of it is “talking just to talk” having focus on the Lives of others, being preoccupied with what they are doing (not finding it superior per se in this scenario) but just being consumed by it.

my mother used to do this ALL THE TIME – almost like a “let’s see who and what we can talk about now to fill the time, beyond gossip, compulsive mind chatter/spoken chatter”