Dear lindsey:

I came up with my own manual for this kind of stuff, put together rules for myself. For example, when I was on a dating site years ago, my rule was to meet men in public places, like a coffee house or a very casual restaurant, outdoor type, during the day for conversation, arrive there independently and leave whenever I wanted, not  just on the first date, but second and third.

From time to time I recommend this to members on this site, as well as to not get physically intimate with a man they meet through a dating site for a number of months of getting to know each other without physical involvement. This one rule could have saved you the emotional pain of this recent short relationship you had.

I sure hope that soon enough you will feel much better, that you don’t talk to him or communicate with him at all, and ignore him completely.

anita