Dear Coconut

Sharing here some thoughts I tell myself to be relaxed in the presence of people, to be yourself irrespective of who is around you

Take stock of your strengths. It can be surprising how often we forget that. Keep reminding yourself on a consistent basis about these.

Tendency is to focus on what is wrong with you. Shift that focus to what is right.

You may tend to dislike that thing about others which is actually present in yourself. See if you can recognize that and be willing to forgive yourself as well as others for that.

Some people may not be deserving of your understanding and compassion but most people are. They are suffering just as you are. When you are able to see this commonality, you are able to let go of the barriers that prevent you from being at ease.

for those people who seem undeserving let them be; they are not worth your time or effort.

The mind is powerful. It is able to make you recognize that the thoughts are in your head but yet prevent you from making changes easily. The key is to take it one moment at a time – slow yet steady.

Take care