I love that analogy Anita! I am going to remember that. He actually told a few of his “best friends” but they are not the ones that he spends a lot of time with (because they live around 30 min away, as opposed to his wife’s family who live on the same street). But, I have only really met and spent time with one of them, who we happened to run into somewhere. As for the single status, he took it down after I voiced disappointment. I actually do not know if he thought I would see it or not because I rarely sign onto those social media sites. He said he did it more to establish his independence from his ex, as opposed to thinking about how it affected me (see a pattern?). But, regardless, he still did it. He works closely with his ex on helping their son … He said he just doesn’t want to introduce me to all those people because he is nervous if he does and then decides he doesn’t want a relationship, it won’t go well. Clearly he is an overthinker and overanalyzes.  There is no doubt I have been a valuable support for him…he will tell you that himself. He says he knows what he has in me…

He is distancing himself even more now the last few weeks, which is exactly what my therapist said he would do. He was furious that I was upset about the status situation and said he almost ended it with me right there and then. He has threatened that before when I have expressed to him if I am upset about something. Apparently the term is “gaslighting” when they turn it around and make it your problem/fault.

As I sit here and read what I am writing, I am baffled as to why I am still there…