Dear Anita,

You remember a few of those times, what goes wrong, when those times happen, help me understand, young Cali Chica, will you, why is she not happy with you anymore?

She isn’t happy lets say if she is in a bad mood, and I ask her to give me a ride somewhere – then she gets upset and says “god I didn’t take this life to be a slave to my daughters.” or she would say to my dad: “look at these children we give our blood sweat and tears to them.”

then maybe i’ll get upset and throw a fit, and then I say something mean to my mom like “no other moms do this, they don’t make a huge deal out of everything”

she will sometimes get MORE angry – and throw a huge fit, get huge big eyes like a monster and say “HOW DARE YOU say this to your mother, you’re lucky I don’t kick you out of this house”

or sometimes alternatively she will get sad, and start screaming and crying saying “god what did I do to deserve this torture, even my daughter is against me!!  she may call my dad on the phone while he has work to complain about this and then my dad will get upset when he comes home, for being so bad to my mother