Sorry to add more.  I want to rephrase, I don’t want my husband to find a good opportunity just because it seems like other people have, I am well aware that things are not always what they seem. I want him to find a good opportunity because especially after all he has been through, I want him to find a job that is not toxic. He deserves to do his job in a pleasant environment, at the very least, I am not asking for much. And neither is he. I just wish that he could catch a break, he does need to heal and this job and the stress related to it and the environment is making things even more difficult. He is quite patient and is hopeful at times, but at times I feel like staying at a place like this will only lead to more burn out and frustration. There are other times where I know that I can’t do anything just now, and to constantly seeking I’m doing isn’t going to get anywhere, sometimes you do have to sit back and see what happens. But as you can see, a part of me is motivated to find an out so to speak for us, so that we are more free, and not just owned by the system as employees