Dear Anita,

yes you are so correct!

i want to go back to the example that you stated about my intention.  thank you for bringing up this real life example.

I was focused on my “friend” on the other side of the world – and her party that was not important at all.  not to anyone, but I made it ‘important” in my own head.  To distract away from the true importance, the true thing, my team

interesting, you would think if there was a true team you were apart of, that you would naturally be inclined to focus on that, and not the “noise”  – yet my inclination is the exact opposite! i wonder when that formed..as a pathway..and habit for me..