Dear Anita,

What an amazing post – you truly get it – you do! you explained so well my mother, and how contradictory.

Your mother has been so contradictory in her messages I am surprised you are as sane as you are.

I too am surprised at how sane I am.  Actually I think thats what drives me recently as far as the business model – sometimes it says to me “look how much you went through and you came out sane, don’t settle, you can achieve great things, go for it, don’t settle” but of course with that it creates a sense of urgency and anxiety / conversation for another day.

In the same day my mother is ecstatic I cured her loneliness my bringing a friend over, but anguished at the burden it caused. In the same day my mother is ecstatic I am “finally” engaged, but enraged that now the engagement party may not go her way.  In the same day, same hour.  In the same day my mom is ecstatic to throw her “perfect daughter” her bridal shower, but a moment later throwing a fit that one aunt – who she hates mind you – didnt show up.  So the entire ride home says how its a waste to throw such events because people don’t appreciate them.

Oh Anita, how horrific, terrifying and exhausting.

I would love to speak further, like this, or the exercise – whatever you choose.