Dear FancyFondue:

The guy you hired did a bad job cleaning and re-staining your deck, it still looks bad.  You accidently killed the weed and grass and these formed a thick layer that prevent rain from draining, causing flooding. You may have a termite problem in the deck boards. You took a demotion at work so to take care of your father and you are worried about having enough money to pay the bills in the next coupe of months. Your 92 year old father refuses to have anyone else help him other than you with grocery shopping, cooking and cleaning nor will he consider moving to a retirement community.

Understandably you are overwhelmed.

When having a house and property, there is always something that needs to be done, some things urgently, others later, but there is always something. This is why a lot of people, as they get older, downsize, moving to an easy to be maintained smaller house or apartment. Is that an option for you?

* I will soon be away from the computer for a few hours.

anita