Dear Gregory:

You live in Juba, South Sudan, but grew up in/ visited Uganda, Kenya, South Africa and Poland. Your estranged wife also lives in Juba, where you live. I like very much how you put your thoughts into words in your most recent post:

“when a woman begins to cheat on her husband, then she is planning to divorce and wishing her husband to die, because she has got another man, she slept with”-

– fascinating how you phrased it, when a woman cheats on her husband, she is planning to divorce him. It means she is responsible for the divorce she already made happen as she cheated on her husband.

“wishing her husband to die”- the woman who cheats on her loving and trusting husband creates such pain in him, such strong emotional hurt, that it is like death. When a person’s trust is betrayed, it is a sort of death, death of that trust. I have this image, a man holding on to his wife as a place of love and hope, hope of togetherness for life. Then she cheats on him, and he falls down because she is no longer there to hold on to.

But you are not falling down now, you have your son, Agoth Gregory who loves you, and you can trust his love for you because young children always love their parents. And you have your “goal and get a better life and I think a beautiful one”!

Your writing is like that golden dust in South Sudan mentioned before.

anita