Treasamariam,

My rule for relationships is “what you see is what you get” which means, I don’t expect someone to change when I meet them.  You want to take on this “project” in somehow making your boyfriend to be someone he is not rather than accepting for who and what he is.  What you are getting is a super friendly, fun, loyal, sincere and caring boyfriend who has no ambition and is apathetic.

Don’t expect to be able to change certain parts/qualities of him as if he was some sort of construction project.  You cannot motivate him.  It has been proven in countless ways in psychological studies that real change comes from internally generated motivation, i.e. he has to want to do it himself.

Either move on or accept that you will be the one who is concerned about career, finances, and future.  Are you willing to take on that burden?

Mark