Peggy — it makes sense what you wrote above and believe me, I will do my best to “let him know I like him” because he is so important to me. I just don’t want to spoil our friendship and work relationship … it’s very difficult for me to approach a man that I like. I might be lacking those skills … You are also right when you say that I should go on dates with other men, it would take the pressure off regarding the man I like but, at the same time, I don’t see myself spending my energy in others that are not important and meaningful to me. Yes, and I was avoiding relationships for a long time using career as an excuse, mostly for fear of emotional intimacy and showing my vulnerability to a close partner. But now, with him, I am so willing and open to reveal myself as I am and develop a love relationship with him! We can both learn how to do that! I guess one needs to feel these things first because you can’t just open up to anybody!
Anita — when I first met him (aside from my feelings that I described above and which appeared like an epiphany the first moment I saw him) I liked the way he looked physically, liked his important position in the company BUT what I liked most, when talking to him and getting to know him little by little is that he is very intelligent, hard working, diligent, respectful, modest, kind, quiet, serious, friendly, funny, etc. Therefore, it’s a whole person I like, I am not just impressed by his great job or the way he looks.
Thank you both for taking the time to help and support me through this!
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