Peggy — I am very aware of the fact that a love relationship can not fulfill my every need. I have friends, family, work colleagues that have become good friends to me. I am going out, am traveling often and I am involved in various projects … all these fulfill my needs but not the need of having a significant other, of loving a man and being loved back. I often feel lonely… This need can only be fulfilled by a love relationship with a similar person. Therefore, my life is going in many directions, I am not just relying on this man to “save me”. My obsession comes only from the fact that I like him so much, am ready for a love relationship and would like it to be with him.

Anita — he is not a colleague of mine. We only collaborate for work related matters and he has a higher, auditing position to the work I do and this is why I see him rarely (1-2 times every few weeks). So, this should make things easier but you can see that they aren’t :)). Anita, you said:  “If you talk to him about a possible get together, a date or a relationship, suggest it in a business like manner, not emotionally or flirtatiously. Present it to him in such a way that his answer right-there-and-then is not required, in such a way that he can comfortably withdraw, but clearly enough so that you will know his answer”, this is what I was thinking too but could not put into words. Question is – how do I do that? easier said than done … I thought I made a start of that when I gave him a souvenir from abroad but he must have interpreted it as a gesture of friendship not of love interest …