Dear miyoid:

You wrote back in June: “I crave the affection, not the person”- this is a recipe of disaster for a young woman. Over the years, a woman who craves affection unselectively from men, ends up with unplanned pregnancies, STDs and/ or increasing despair.

It is most important that you select a man wisely before engaging in a sexual relationship with him, so that you can count on the affection you crave to continue, because you have learned that this particular man is a decent, honest man. One you can trust.

Having read that you never shared with your parents how neglected you were by them because you don’t want them to feel badly. I think that if you interact with your parents a lot but hide this most significant part of your experience with them, you are betraying yourself, no less than they have betrayed you.

You mentioned their intent- never mind their intent- you really were neglected or abandoned. Let them know.

anita

I crave the affection, not the person.