Hi Luke,

thats hard. It never feels good to feel trashed , locked apart or being left during hard times .

Ive been there before… when you love someone and your life becomes entangled with them. But they are like somewhere else the whole time.. sometimes when we are in love we only see the positive. We don’t see everything else. Sometimes we only see and hear what we want to and hold on to that, and ignore everything else..

Im sorry you are going through this. I know it feels like having a ton of shit on your back and you feel lonely and sometimes like you can’t go on because the one thing you loves and attached to has like left you in the dark (well it feels that way).

But this too shall pass. Life goes on. You can rebuild and you don’t need her to do it. You can find someone who appreciates you and someone who’s not afraid to be authentic so that when you build with them, you’re building on a stable foundation.

I know it’s challenging to move forward , especially because of all the memories you share with this person. Especially taking a leap to move etc. all those points are valid & again, those moments were very real. That doesn’t go away just because she left .

I read somewhere that relationships don’t end. They complete. Relationships are important, we are communal beings. Relationships teach us things and are relevant for specific time periods in our life. Some are life long others are for a moment. The ones for a moment are what we’d call “purposeful relationships.” These relationships end or “complete” when the purpose is fulfilled. Thank it for the lessons it’s right you. I know that’s hard to do now. But over time as you start to rise up , you’ll start figuring out that purpose. As you start to learn how to rebuild yourself you’ll start to learn about certain wounds that- maybe you put bandaids on before but now you’re having to face and heal to have the life and relationships you want.

What you both shared was meaningful that doesn’t go away. But like you said , if she can just “throw it all away,” something was being built on a false premise… something was missing , or something was happening on the side that maybe you both turned a blind eye to and.. she’s not who you truly thought she was. And that’s okay. You’re allowed to be upset about that , again, that was her own confusion.

All you can do is, take accountability for your end. Work on growth , and acceptance . And be peaceful in the fact that, at the end of the day, you’ll be in a way better place to build what you truly desire than ever before.

in the meantime , find family or close friends to lean on. Ask for support , love & help. I know reaching out is scary. But do it. It’s worth while. Shouldn’t have to go through this alone .