Dear Cali Chica:

(Earl Grey has been my favorite tea ever since I discovered it!)

“to emotionally regulate.. To  be able to dim the switch.. not allowing distress to boil over. Containing it… controlling my OWN distress” instead of “saying: ‘well of  course I feel this way, look what happened!!!’ roaring with agony and entitlement”-

– this is a Major Key for the well-being of you individually and of your marriage.

When your mother roared at you, she felt entitled to you, so she robbed you of your well-being. You’ve been on the road of healing from what she did to you.

Can’t heal though unless you successfully do what she didn’t do- emotionally regulate, dim the switch, contain and control your distress skillfully. And no longer roar. No more roaring-Cali Chica.

anita