Milo,

I second what Anita said. Though I will add that if for some reason you do decide to go, be sure to implement boundaries between your and your family members. I know you want to be helpful (which to me shows a kindness within you) but that doesn’t mean you should self-sacrifice, even in the seriousness of death. Your father has not been kind to you, so really, what do you owe him?

I wish you healing and the ability to not feel guilty, as you owe nothing to your family.

Best,

Thalia