Mackenzie,

i am not in my 20s, actually in my 30s and i completely understand how you feel. When i was in a long term relationship, i deleted my facebook and snap chat. Once i was out of that relationship, i felt like there was no other way of connecting with people other than to get back on those sites. While on there, ive attempted to “play the game” and be active with posts, but its just not my thing, i guess im not good at it.

so many people are addicted to these apps and its disappointing. I too believe that it seems to be the only way to connect with people. The old fashion hope that one of your friends will suggest you to another single person just doesnt seem to happen. Ive held hope for this idea, and nobody even has a single person in mind.

i will say this…those apps also can cause a lot of damage. While i did participate in dating apps, snap chat, etc, they also were a negative for me. Its not the apps fault, but strictly my own for m actions. While on these apps, ive conversed with many women and thought it was great. I met a handful of women, but the problem was, i didnt see an end in sight. Once i found something that i was enjoying but didnt feel 100% on, i continued to field the messages from other women coming in that had major interest in me. This seemed to help the break up go much easier on my end, but ultimately i ended up regretting it over time.

i guess in conclusion, i understand how you feel, the ability to connect with others is not there without the avenues, but i too feel fake on these apps, and the truth is, so is everyone else. Please understand that you arent suffering by not participating. Take me as an example of the negative aspect of these apps. You are open and available to anyone connecting to you, and if your mind isnt in the right frame at all times, as a human, we can make mistakes.

try to take a deep breath and realize it may take time, but be who you are deep down inside, or else you will struggle with questioning what to do at all times, driving yourself mad.